Blog — Courage to Caregivers

The Strongest Bridge Can Sway Without Breaking

"Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connection." ~ Brené Brown

I’ve struggled with this week’s email. Sometimes the topics are so perfectly timed for what I’m going through that the words just flow out. But this week, my words are STUCK.

Trust me, we ALL need to be talking about this week’s topic, building bridges, right NOW. And there’s SO much I want to say to those with whom I don’t share the same beliefs, values, or viewpoints. I have tried to meet those who see the world through a different lens with LOVE, but somehow it never feels like enough … and then, I don’t feel like enough. I’m tired and exhausted, and that’s what makes it so hard. (I did ask for support recently, and that is helping.)

Two important aspects of building bridges are tolerance and inclusion. Caregivers often have to tolerate not just differing opinions but also stress, emotional outbursts, and sometimes unfair criticism from family members who aren’t as involved. But caregivers can’t always walk away from these conflicts. They must navigate them while ensuring the well-being of the person they care for. Tolerance is about managing emotional strain and disagreements with grace and resilience, while inclusion is about making sure both the caregiver and the care recipient are valued and involved in decision-making.

Common HumanityKristi HornerApril 3, 2025Building Bridges, Bridging Differences

APRIL 2024 NEWSLETTER: We're in this TOGETHER 🤲

Every single one of us has a STORY. Not one of us is spared life's challenges - after all - that's LIFE! And ... I don't need to remind you that life can be HARD.

Many times our caregiver stories are "invisible" - just like the invisible illnesses many of our loved ones face.

Life is filled with moments of joy AND ordinary AND pain. In my most tender moments supporting loved ones (or myself) through immense physical or emotional pain, I've shared my thoughts on how we might navigate our one and precious life. We were never promised a life of only the “good” emotions - like joy and happiness - life comes with the good AND bad - a full spectrum of experiences.

How often do you find yourself asking "why ME?" I've been known to say this and "enough is enough" - how much pain can one person endure?

Sometimes, life feels unfair.

But as you navigate your story - your journey of life - remember, you are NEVER alone. Never alone in your joy OR your pain. We're on this caregiver journey TOGETHER.

When I founded Courage to Caregivers - it was a passion project. After losing our brother to suicide, my sisters and I knew NO ONE should take this journey - of providing care to someone they love living with mental illness - ALONE. We had felt so very alone all those years providing mental and emotional support for our brother. Just like he did. Yet, we were facing this together.

Over the years, talking with people, hearing their stories, holding their hands on their journey of pain - whether it be grief, loss of any kind, chronic pain, physical pain, emotional pain, isolation, or loneliness - it can feel hard and overwhelming. One of the things I've learned is ... people want to know they aren't ALONE. We work to validate each caregiver's experience and affirm and normalize their feelings. Allowing each caregiver to feel seen, heard, and understood.

“The very definition of being 'human' means that one is mortal, vulnerable and imperfect. Therefore, self-compassion involves recognizing that suffering and personal inadequacy is part of the shared human experience – something that we all go through rather than being something that happens to ‘me’ alone.” ~ Kristin Neff

Walking hand in hand with someone else is one of our greatest gifts to each other. Common humanity = you are NEVER alone.

Check out our entire April Newsletter focused on Common Humanity here.

Building Bridges for Support

“It takes both sides to build a bridge.” – Fredrik Nael

A lot of what we talk about at Courage to Caregivers involves the self – self-growth, self-knowledge, self-empowerment. But this month, we’re expanding our view as we consider our place within common humanity. And this week’s topic of building bridges is all about understanding, interacting with, and showing support for others.

Common HumanityKristi HornerApril 4, 2024Bridging Differences, Building Bridges

April Newsletter: Self-Compassion + Connectedness + Common Humanity = HOPE

Life can be HARD - I likely don't need to remind you.

Life is filled with moments of joy AND ordinary AND pain. In my most tender moments supporting loved ones (or myself) through immense physical or emotional pain, I've shared my thoughts on how we might navigate our one and precious life. We were never promised a life of only the “good” emotions - like joy and happiness - life comes with the good AND bad - a full spectrum of experiences.

How often do you find yourself asking "why ME?" I've been known to say this and "enough is enough" - how much pain can one person endure?

Sometimes, life feels unfair.

But as you navigate your story - your journey of life - remember, you are NEVER alone. Never alone in your joy OR your pain.

When I founded Courage to Caregivers - it was a passion project. After losing our brother to suicide, my sisters and I knew NO ONE should take this journey - of providing care to someone they love living with mental illness - ALONE. We had felt so very alone all those years providing mental and emotional support for our brother.

Over the years, talking with people, hearing their stories, holding their hands on their journey of pain - whether it be grief, loss of any kind, chronic pain, physical pain, emotional pain, isolation, or loneliness - it can feel hard and overwhelming. One of the things I've learned is ... people want to know they aren't ALONE. We work to validate each caregivers' experience and affirm and normalize their feelings.

“The very definition of being “human” means that one is mortal, vulnerable and imperfect. Therefore, self-compassion involves recognizing that suffering and personal inadequacy is part of the shared human experience – something that we all go through rather than being something that happens to ‘me’ alone.” ~ Kristin Neff

Walking hand in hand with someone else is one of our greatest gifts to each other. Common humanity = you are NEVER alone.

Check out our entire April newsletter focused on Common Humanity here.

Bridges of Love and Empathy

“Love builds bridges where there are none.” – R.H. Delaney

There’s a reason we use the term “loved ones” in our mission statement: “To provide hope, support, and courage to caregivers and loved ones of those living with mental illness.” With all the complications and struggles involved in caregiving, we recognize that love is what drives all that we do.

Common HumanityKristi HornerApril 6, 2023Building Bridges, Bridging Differences